Friends, after toying around with the idea of launching my own merch line for a few years, I finally took the leap!

The "Unapologetic" Unisex Crewneck

Yes! The "UnapologeticallyPam" merch line here friends and I am ecstatic! You can purchase your items here or by clicking the "Shop" tab here on the blog!

Thank you all so much for your continued love & support of the important work of vulnerability, overcoming shame, and living in truth, unapologetically. I am eternally grateful! ♥

Unapologetically,

Pam

Ever since moving to Chicago, I've been experimenting with clothing. Presently, I would describe my style as urban/grunge chic. I love street style, I love black, and I love leather and ripped denim.

I also love comfort (I've finally grown out of the 'wearing heels to be fashionable' phase and into the 'here are my dope flat boots' stage). These boots from Amazon are absolutely everything. Plus, this blazer with the coated sleeves from Boohoo is my favorite accessory at the moment.

One of the things I love about Boohoo is that they offer really dope pieces for curvy gals (which is hard to come by). If you haven't shopped there, before I highly recommend!

Hat: Forever 21 | Blazer: Boohoo | Top: K-mart | Bottoms: K-mart | Shoes: Amazon

I'm really thankful that I can bring that style with me from work to the stage to date night. I have finally gotten my wardrobe to a place where I can sing, dance, date, and work in the same clothes! Hooray! What are you rocking these days? Drop your instagram link below so I can check out your style 💖


Unapologetically,
Pam

In September 2018, I celebrated my 30th birthday with a photo shoot. With my hubby behind the camera, and my girlfriends playing Beyonce in the background, I twirled around the deck of our weekend lake house rental. I absolutely love how these photos turned out. Perhaps hubs can get a side hustle as a photog? 👀



When I look at these photos, I am absolutely amazed that this is me. I feel younger than I've ever felt. I see joy in these pictures. I also feel absolutely beautiful in my skin, which took a long time.




I see Love, Joy, Hope, Peace, and Honesty when I look at these photos. Cheers to my 30th Year. Cheers to more love, more life, and more abundance.

Unapologetically,
Pam

Recently, I went into a Rainbow shop to browse around and I came upon this gorgeous denim dress. I immediately started getting all kinds of winter overalls/denim jumpsuit kinda vibes from it. I just had to have it! But, when I got to the rack, I noticed that this dress was several sizes too big for me. Bummer...I hesitantly started to return it to its rack and let the search continue.

But then I started thinking of all the ways I could style it as an oversized dress. It wouldn't work in the summer time, as I would need to put something under it...but it is perfect for winter-time layering. Furthermore, what really was drawing me in (pun intended, you'll see) was the drawstring. This would cinch in my waist while allowing the top to be baggy and the bottom to flow as necessary.

Nevertheless, I was still not 100% sold just yet. "Let me look at the price, that'll help me decide," I thought to myself. Any more than $15 and it's not worth it.

Guess what? THIS DRESS WAS $3.00. Yes, THREE DOLLARS. I was running out of reasons to not get it.

So, I thought, "Why Not?"


This little shopping tale is where fashion meets reality for me. Honestly, I think we can get caught up in the "rules" too much. We are often given stigmas, labels, and guidelines and told to follow it. But when we do, we can miss out on something extraordinary. For example, when I saw the size of this dress, I could've gone with my first thought, put it back on the shelf, and continue browsing. If I had let the size of the dress talk me out of buying it because it wouldn't fit, then I would be missing out on a dope outfit like this!





So girlfriends, if you see something you like that's outside of your usual norms BUT the perks add up, just go for it. In the famous words of our Queen, Beyonce: "I see it, I want it...I dream it, I work hard, I grind 'til I own it." Queens, try something new. Break the rules. Better yet, make your own rules ♥

Unapologetically,
Pam
xoxo

Dress: Rainbow  |  Top, Tights, & Boots: Target  |  Cross Earrings: Forever 21

Chicago rooftop parking lots are so great for pictures. The views are great, but there's not too many people around to bother you while you snap away.

Top: Target  |  Bottoms: Forever 21  |  Bag: Target  |  Jewelry: Forever 21 & Discovery  |  Cardigan: Target  |  Shoes: Payless

Just a quick word of wisdom before I go, remember this: there's always more than one way to get to a destination. Follow your own path to greatness.


Unapologetically,
Pam xoxo

A Poetic Letter to Me on my Birthday:

Happy birthday, beautiful girl!

You've grown up a lot haven't you?
You've seen a lot of life,
Its beauties and its pains...


Yet you never lost your laugh.
It is an honor to know you,
To be you.


I love you,
Deep,
Fierce,
Without Resolve.


So, happy birthday to you. To me. Happy birthday, beautiful girl.

I love you, I do.
I do,
I do,
A thousand times,
I do.

Top: Actually a dress from Charlotte Russe  |  Skirt: Rainbow  |  Accessories: Discovery  |  Purse: Marshall's  |  Shoes: Target I wore this little ensemble to a wedding recently. Honey Dip picked out the top and skirt, I put them together for a killer outfit :)

We've all heard the phrase "I'll cross that bridge when I get to it." We have probably even used it ourselves at some point or another. There are times when this phrase is useful, because it allows us to focus on what's happening in the present rather than worrying about the distant future. Even more so, sometimes we don't even get to that bridge that caused us so much concern and anxiety.

But then again, sometimes we do get there...

And then, what happens when you get to that bridge? Do you turn and hide? Or do you take a deep breath, take the first step even though you're scared, and cross it? I prefer the latter.

The truth is, life happens and you won't always be ready for it. You won't always be certain of that bridge when it comes. Is it safe? Is it stable? Is it even the right bridge? And when I cross it, what's on the other side?

I've crossed many bridges. The bridge of healing from abuse. The bridge of separation. The bridge of divorce. The bridge of purpose. The bridge of trusting myself. The bridge of learning to love myself. Quite frankly, I saw so many bridges over the last five years that I was afraid my weary legs couldn't bear to cross another. And yet I did. And you can, too.

When challenges arise, it's tough to cross that bridge. But it's worth it. Especially when the view on the other side is like this one.

Once I crossed this bridge, I found a beautiful local art exhibit and gorgeous outdoor scenery.

Dress: Wet Seal  |  Shoes: H&M  |  Sunnies: Hollywood Blvd. in Cali

Whatever bridge you're facing right now, I encourage you to cross it. Do it scared, do it shaken, but do it, all the same.

Because sometimes, bridges are worth crossing.

xoxo,
Pam

Recently, Honey Dip and I went to see the Chicago Civic Orchestra and it was MAGICAL. The show we saw was A Midsummer Night's Dream and my company provided us with box seats. It was such a fun night!

Originally, I was stumped as to what to wear for this event, as it was on a Monday evening after work. I wanted to be cute, but still comfortable. This is what I came up with!

Top: Target  |  Plaid: Target  |  Jeans: Forever 21  |  Shoes: Target  |  Necklace: Forever 21  |  Watch: Discovery  |  Belt: Thrifted  |  Bag: Target  |  Hat: H&M

This outfit was comfortable, yet chic. I felt glamorous, but not overdone. We had such a fun date!



Thanks so much for reading!

xoxo,
Pam

I don't know about you guys, but I thoroughly enjoyed the random cold spring days we had in early May. Yes, it's spring and we want warm weather, BUT another opportunity to throw on a chunky knit like this is always legit.

When I saw the colors on this brick wall, I knew it was a perfect spot for photos. Plus the beautiful greenery coupled perfectly with these killer shoes from Forever 21. Seriously, how cute are these?! They're always a conversation starter when I wear them.

Sweater: Thrifted  |  Jeans: Target  |  Shoes: Forever 21  |  Accessories: Charlotte Russe & Discovery

Thank you for reading!

xoxo,
Pam

Lately, I've been absolutely loving chokers. It's funny because when this 90's fad started coming back, I rolled my eyes all the way back to 1991 and back. Yet, the more I followed fellow bloggers and fashion icons, they eventually won me over. This is my favorite way to style them: paired with another necklace.

Top: Charlotte Ruse | Bottoms: Forever 21 | Shoes: Forever 21 | Accessories: Discovery | Belt: Thrifted

Hiiii homies!

Another quick fashion post for you. Here's an outfit I wore on a cold, rainy Sunday in Chicago. I know that the calendar says "spring" but the weather suggests otherwise lol. Oh well, at least I enjoyed my outfit!

These boots from Forever 21 have gotten me through a lot of rainy days. After waterproofing them, I've gotten a lot of wear out of them. And this leather jacket is a must-have for this in-between weather, especially if I want to go for a grungy look like this.

Jacket: Gift Top: Thrifted Jeans & Plaid: Target Boots: Forever 21

I know this one's blurry, but I kinda love how it turned out lol.

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,
Pam

One of my dearest friends, Martha, is an absolutely beautiful soul with crazy amazing fashion sense to boot! If you watch our vlogs, you know that hanging out with her is always lit. When Martha, DeMico, and I get together we call outselves "The Trio" hahahaha. I loved the shots we got after brunch on this sunny (yet cold) morning in Chicago. Definitely made me feel like we had paparazzi snapping pics (when really it was DeMico lol!)

My outfit for brunch was super casual, as I wanted to feel comfortable whilst also being full of delicious grub.

Jacket: Thrifted Shirt: Target Bottoms: Local Boutique Shoes: Nordstrom Necklace: Akira Watch & Bracelets: Discovery Sunnies: Forever 21

Also, here's a few snaps of Martha!


Seriously, how cute is she?!

Also, here's my love!


And alas, here is the trio. FYI, this is basically the only good picture we got, as we couldn't stop giggling hahahaha.


Thanks for reading you guys!

xoxo,
Pam

PS - Ooooh, also have you seen my new spring beauty video? It's my first makuep video and I'd adore it if you watched it. Love you, mean it!